Members can report other members to the site for abuse by either clicking the three vertical dots on the offending post, comment or reply and then clicking 'Report', or by clicking the 'Report Abuse or Sexually Explicit Ads' link at the bottom of any page on the site if one can read the very small print (yet another example of the site not taking abuse seriously!).
The site's terms of use, section 12 on the conduct of members, requires members not to, for example, "upload, post, email, transmit or otherwise make available any Content that is unlawful (e.g., prostitution), harmful, threatening, abusive, harassing, tortious, defamatory, obscene, libelous, invasive of another's privacy, hateful, or racially, ethnically or otherwise objectionable", "harm minors in any way or commit abuse", "upload, post, email, transmit or otherwise make available any Content that you do not have a right to make available under any law or under contractual or fiduciary relationships (such as inside information, proprietary and confidential information learned or disclosed as part of employment relationships or under nondisclosure agreements)", "upload, post, email, transmit or otherwise make available any Content that infringes any patent, trademark, trade secret, copyright or other proprietary rights of any person", "upload, post, email, transmit or otherwise make available any unsolicited or unauthorized advertising, promotional materials ... or any other form of commercial solicitation", "violate any applicable local, state, national or international law ... and any regulations having the force of law", "'stalk' or otherwise harass another person or user or member", and "disclose any telephone numbers, street addresses, last names, URLs or email addresses in any user or member profile that you create".
The site encourages members to report other members who violate its terms of use, such as "Sending solicitations to other websites", "Sending harassing or threatening messages", "Posting fake/inappropriate accounts or photos", "Being abusive or sending solicitations in the chat rooms or IMC", "Engaging in prostitution, sex trafficking, or endangerment", and "Non-consensual Content".
Do you regularly report other members to the site for abuse and/or violation of the site's terms of use?
If so, what are the main reasons for you to report such abuse?
Do you think the site takes abuse seriously?
I don't regularly report other members to the site for abuse and/or violation of the site's terms of use. But when I have done, it's usually for reasons of abuse, incest, misogyny, r+pe, racism and underage sex. I would report members for posting about bestiality and necrophilia but thankfully I haven't come across such posts to report for abuse. I have issues when members recount abuse, incest, misogyny, r+pe, racism or underage sex as a so-called erotic story. I'm inclined to think that such stories are partially based on real events and therefore should be reported. But I could be wrong in my assumption. What do you think?
Generally, I'm less inclined to report members for abuse because I don't think the site takes abuse seriously enough. I've never known the site to take decisive action against a persistently abusive member. Furthermore, the site's business model of using women as bait for entitled men wanting to get laid tonight seems to condone and even promote much abuse.
I don't report members to the site for advertising, contact details being revealed, copyright infringement, fake photos, insider trading, libel/defamation, obscenity, prostitution, solicitation and even scamming. I'm no snitch!
Below is a poll in which you can indicate the reasons that you report or would report other members to the site for abuse and/or violation of the site's terms of use. The poll is anonymous, and as many reasons can be ticked as you want. I realise that many of my poll options are overlapping.
In compiling this poll, I was aware that laws vary between countries. For example, in both America and Britain it's illegal to promote violence in speech, but the legal bar is set higher in American than in British courts.
Another example is the age of consent, which varies from 9 years of age (in Yemen, though marriage is required before having sex at this age) to 21 years of age (in Cameroon) and varies whether heterosexual or homosexual sex and whether married or unmarried sex. The age of consent differs depending on what country you look at. In America and Australia, the age of consent varies between states. Here in Britain, like Japan and Singapore, the age of consent is 16 years of age. But in Canada, France, India, Mexico and Spain, plus many other countries, it's 18 years of age. It's 14 years of age in China and Germany. Worldwide, between 16 and 18 years of age seem to be the magic numbers. It begs the question what age does this site use in determining whether a post, etc constitutes underage sex. I suspect the site uses American law in its review process, and that if I was to write a blog post about having sex with a sixteen year old, legal in Britain, my post would be struck down as illegal.
Going back to Yemen, I'm unsure at what the age of consent is in that country. My 9 years of age, mentioned above, came from the World Population Review website, which is wrong about Britain's age of consent. But when I searched for Yemen's age of consent, Google's 'AI Overview' tells me that the country has no age of consent. But whatever, the point I'm trying to make is that a Yemeni married man describing sex with his ten-year old wife in a blog post wouldn't, rightly or wrongly, pass muster with this site even if the sex is legal where he lives. (By the way, I'm not defending Yemeni law.)
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Well, I've only had to report one member, a religious nuts, who "simply" threa+ened to k+ll me for being a sl+t: directly and explicitly, no euphemisms, no place for interpretation of his words... But whatever, it's not a big deal... (sarcasm). With the other stupid, retarded people who try to offend or insult me (there aren't many, to be honest), what I do is simply block them with the "forever" option: that is, I send them to my own "hell" with no possibility of redemption
I tend to report rather than block. I had one explicit death threat (from a jihadist) and one veiled death threat (from a MAGA troll).
@spunkycumfun well.... yes, in my case: he was also a jihadist...
I've reported members for violating the TOU, but I directly email Tier 2 instead of using the report abuse form. I don't trust the abuse team since they're not the brightest bulb in the pack.
I haven't heard good things about the site's abuse team.
If someone messages me or sends a friend request and they have fake pictures I will report them. But of course the site won't do anything about it.
So I block .
At least a block is decisive action, even if a 'report member abuse' doesn't lead to decisive action by the site.
I am wondering why you feel like a 'snitch' for reporting someone with stolen pics on their profile, when they post in a chat room that the photos are of them? It's lying to other members. Some members really don't care...the horndogs in the chat room will go after a 'female' even when they have no pics at all. But, to me, that member's profile could be a complete lie ... male/female...age...location.... and they proudly declare that the photos on their profile are of them when I can find them all on a dozen porn sites.
I don't make a fuss about it in the chat room...I just report them, including links to a few of the sites where I found the pics, then I block them and go my merry way.
In your poll, I selected quite a few that I do report to the site... I'm not a prude nor am I a slut but when the very first message I get from someone is a detailed account on how they would take me down (sexually, sometimes against my will), I do report them, include a copy of the message, then I block them. In the chat rooms, the same, as well as if there is racism or verbal abuse towards another member in the room.
I don't report someone now for including off-site, personal contact info in repeated messages in the chat rooms. I used to but it took up all my time lol Sometimes, I will let the member know it is against the site's rules to post that info but I don't do that very often anymore either.
I was using the 'snitch' word very loosely, probably too loosely. My first instinct is not to report but sometimes the words or images posted are too serious to ignore. Somehow the site allows such words and images to appear!
@rdy2try4 True. Someone stole my profile once!
@rdy2try4 I presume that put an end to the issue.
I'm occasionally amazed at what gets through sometimes here on the blogs. Just the other day I saw a female (clearly a pro) that posted ALL of her details, physical, contact info, specialties - only lacked prices! And yet it STILL got through. I don't really care that much, I just ignored it, but it kind of pissed me off that some folks routinely get their pictures and GIFs censored, but yet this chick's AD was allowed.
The contrast what gets through that shouldn't and what doesn't get through that should is particularly galling. I haven't noticed that the reviewers have particularly got better over time.
I voted my friend and I voted for a couple items here, not going to get into what I voted for. As the site has changed and reporting doesn't work like it used too.
I hope you enjoy a relaxing Sunday.
I'm not convinced that the site takes seriously anything that's reported here.
I have only done so a couple of times, but I have reported an individual for sending me abusive messages when I don't respond to them.
Females on this site get far more abuse than males. I'm glad I'm a man here!
The only rooting I'm getting off this site is with the scammers and fakes I report on a daily basis. A couple of regular offenders have taken to blocking me lol.
Thankfully the fakes and scammers largely stay away from me, probably because I only blog on the site.
@spunkycumfun the IM is littered with them.
@stonnerking I'm definitely not going there then!
I think its very appropriate that a British liberal would remind people to play the meanie words police. Can't have reality intrude into the phony world of AFF. What do you expect from a person who lives in a country where police can come to your door to ask you about your mean post against mass islamic immigration. And if you say something deemed too inflammatory get sentences in prison sometimes longer then what rapists get. Nothing to see here.
This poll is factual. Your comment is well wide of the mark. And it's clear you know nothing about Britain.
I suggest you go back to your cave and not inflict your trolling ways on people. I live in hope!
I knew one fool would leave an abusive comment on a post about abuse. Congratulations!
Underaged members
That's a no-no for me as well.
We had some clown tell the wife he want to cut her up. was over seas in irland since then she will no longer chat or anything on the site. i have delated her profile.
I hope you reported that clown to the site.
@spunkycumfun I did haven't seen the profile since.