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You know my friend that's so true sometimes we just need to let go of people that just think about themselves and never us. I hope the rest of your week goes smoothly..
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So true my friend, in real life and on here, sometimes you just have to purge the negativity! Please Visit My Blog MAMACITA38DD
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Terminating a toxic relationship is a prerogative that- if unchecked- will morph into a necessity for survival. Indeed the speed and expediency with which you can sever a connection on social media is- I suspect- a central reason that we have so enthusiastically replaced face-to-face interaction with texting, FB-ing, emailing and the like. This slope is slippery because it becomes easy to "give up" on people. We want our relationships to be exciting, productive and frictionless. When the going gets *tough* (as will inevitably happen) the temptation to "move along" becomes powerful. While we should stay grounded in the realities and consequences of our choices and not be afraid to act in our own *best interests*, we need to keep the entire narrative (not just the last angry/awkward moment) in perspective. We need to acknowledge our contribution to whatever malaise is stressing the relationship. The best relationships are the ones that have been tested again and again and have endured (or is it *persisted*?).
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The toughest lesson for me was learning that just because a guy says, "I love you." that doesn't mean he means it the same way or to the same degree as me. Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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I have 'rescue' syndrome. Its a difficult lesson to learn that you cant help someone who doesnt want to help themselves. Its difficult to walk away but you must to save ones self and family.
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Oh girl... You and me both..I have gotten better since I am more confident with myself. The toxic ones are the hardest to shake and it totally sucks... Hugs to you girl. I am here for you. Rachel Mae
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9/17/2019 8:36 pm |
interesting
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My last ex. I liked her so much. I tried hard until I was walking on eggshells. Had to let her go. It was to toxic.
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Is there a different lesson that it took you longer to learn than you would have liked? That you can't make someone love you no matter how hard you try, or how wonderful you actually are. Thoughts from the Garden...
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Well, misskissin, with you I would love to go insane .. over and over again ...
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I think I'm perhaps guilty of clinging on to something that perhaps wasn't there or wasn't going to materialise.
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You have hit it right on the head. Take care of yourself and don't let the wrong folks suck the life out
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It only takes one of those "friends" to turn on you for you to learn the need to learn to see the inevitable sooner and make the break. What Wants to See My Pes, on OPQ HNW Leg Wear Options Can I Give you a Bit of a Tip [post 3312759] My Private Blog - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets
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You can't love someone until you have truly learned to love yourself......
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9/18/2019 6:55 am |
Walking away from those might be the healthiest thing... for all involved. That doesn't mean that it's easy. In my life I find that I occasionally have to re-learn lessons. I feel like a fool for going down the same path but I DO find that I'm doing it less as I get older. For me, I have learned that I have to take care of myself, not expect other people to do it for me (out of love, concern, responsibility...). That goes for the physical, emotional and spiritual. Sort of like the oxygen mask in the airplane, secure yours before you try to secure someone else's. As for the balance in a relationship? I realize that some relationships are on the "give" side and some are on the "receive" side. I'm OK with that. I try to give and receive graciously.. I'm comfortable with the idea that it all works out in the end. The scales do balance. In a way, I think that I've been given a lot, helped by people that I'll never be able to repay. It's my responsibility to be there for other people, my time to give when I can. So when you have to change paths for your own health and growth it can be OK. Learn what you need to and step off smartly.
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9/18/2019 7:12 am |
I know exactly what you mean kissin. Part of a motorcycle riding club, an original "founder" with my buds. It has grown and we have taken new members to my concern. Most of the time things are very good, the camaraderie, the love of riding. But at times you have this pack mentality that sets in. This is where the homophobia and the anti immigrant sentiments come out with some. One incident really bothered me last year and have had thoughts of no longer belonging. Then another happened two weeks ago, told my buddy that I would no longer be part of it.
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Ironic tho, what one person thinks of as a toxic relationship with someone else, the other person usually thinks of as "all is well" and it comes at a huge shock to them when you cut your ties to them. Am going thru that now with my LTR of the last 18 months, and she just doesnt understand how much her behavior affected me in a negative way. Time may cure that, I hope. We live a block from each other at opposite ends of the same senior bldg, so we MUST run into each other, or become hermits, as I seem to be doing.
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Miss K, when a relationship becomes such that, in your mind;, there is just this question coming up, it is time to think as you say. It can be as simple as a long time friend or that one you just met that makes your heart race. If you get a notion that this relationship is taking away more than adding to. It may be time to stop and evaluate and maybe purge...Sometimes maybe a hard thing to do , but one can not let another drag you down. Have a nice evening, fall finally got here today, yesterday it was 98F today high 80F or so and low 60s tonight... Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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Sounds like the definition of my ex. They tend to take WAAAAAAAAAAY more than they ever give... The positive impact to your life dwindles... or becomes nil... Sometimes we may think it's our fault... "Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax." – Mark Black
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